Judge Lashes out at Father for Spending Over $ 400 on “Love Honey” Online Sex Shop “Fiddlydyedoes” and “Diddlydodas” While Falling Late in Maintenance Payments for His Young Son .
By Gordon Deegan
In family court, Judge Mary Larkin told the man “you have absolute nerve to come here and hope I believe what you say because I don’t believe a word of it.”
The man told Judge Larkin that he fell behind in maintenance payments because he was “struggling” for his weekly social security allowance of â¬ 203 and had no other income.
However, the mother’s lawyer, MairÃ©ad Doyle, produced in court details of a bank statement of over â¬ 400 that the man spent in four separate payments between March and July for the online sex shop ” Love Honey “.
Judge Larkin told the man: “You wouldn’t spend more than half your money on a ‘fiddlydyedoe’ if you only had $ 203 a week.”
Judge Larkin said to him: “You tell me how you can come here and tell me if you are on 203 â¬ a week and you spend 139 â¬ and 139 â¬ more on a ‘fiddlydyedoe’?
In response, the man said: “It was a judge’s error.”
In response, Judge Larkin told him, âNo. It wasn’t a mistake because you didn’t care about the money otherwise you wouldn’t have spent the money.
Judge Larkin said anyone with â¬ 200 a week would worry about how much they are spending on food, BSE and all other bills. She said, “You wouldn’t pay that kind of money for absolute nonsense.”
Judge Larkin asked the man, “How can you afford to spend that kind of money on recreation when you have $ 203 to live on?” “
In response, the man said, “I cannot afford to judge.”
The maintenance order in place is that the man pays his son 45 â¬ maintenance per week, but he currently only pays 25 â¬ for the boy who goes to primary school.
Judge Larkin has now increased the alimony payment to â¬ 80 per week and all arrears must be paid by October 7.
Judge Larkin said she was convinced the man “is extremely well off” after hearing evidence that he owns two homes with no mortgages and has had cash business.
Judge Larkin said: “He can obviously buy ‘diddlydodas’ or whatever you want to call those things whenever he wants without any regard to cost or expense which obviously isn’t a man’s business. who earns â¬ 203 per week. “
Judge Larkin said the man – in his 40s – was very good at raising money and was very good at money.
Judge Larkin said the man “is a man capable of hard work and has raised substantial sums of money to build two houses.”
Ms Doyle of the Shannon-based law firm Carmody and Co Solicitors told Judge Larkin that “Love Honey” “is a website for shopping for sex toys and general erotica.”
Ms Doyle said bank statements show the man made two separate payments of â¬ 139 each to Love Honey in March and another payment of â¬ 98.60 in June as well as a fourth payment to bring the total to over from 400 â¬.
Ms Doyle said the “Love Honey” payments were made during a period where he gave his client â¬ 8 in a week for maintenance and then decided he was not going to comply. a maintenance court order and gave nothing, then decided to pay him more than 25 â¬.
Mrs Doyle told the man: âAt the same time, you could afford to spend over â¬ 400 on this kind of garbage. In June, while claiming to be badly broken, he still managed to pay ‘Love Honey’ â¬ 100 for entertainment â.
When asked to explain the expenses on ‘Love Honey’ by Judge Larkin, the man replied from the witness stand ‘Judge, I have a social life’.
Ms Doyle said the man had a large cash business and had no mortgages on two houses he owned and built with cash.
Mrs. Doyle told him, “You’re lying between your teeth – you think you’re laughing at all of us, but you’re not.”
When asked why he had allowed $ 302 in maintenance arrears to accumulate, the man replied, “I’m in trouble right now.”
In response, Ms Doyle said: âYou weren’t in trouble in June when you paid â¬ 100 in ‘Love Honey’. You weren’t struggling then, were you?
Judge Larkin said the man was “very cowardly and quick with the truth” after hearing evidence that his ex-partner learned of the existence of a child he had from a previous relationship only three days after their breakup.
Judge Larkin said, âTalking with your right hand without knowing what your left hand is doing? Have you lived with this woman for years and you don’t tell her you have another child?
In evidence, the mother asking for the increase in child support said that “three days after I left home, someone accidentally told me that he had another child.”
The court heard that the man had paid â¬ 12.70 per week for the maintenance of his other child for 18 to 19 years and had given money to the child on several occasions.
The mother told court she suffered from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and that her ex “is a trigger.”
She said the man has a safe in his house where he deposits the money from his cash activities.
The man’s lawyer Colum Doherty said his client was not operating on the black market and the woman said that was wrong.
The woman said the video of her ex-partner was recording her during the delivery of their child and Judge Larkin ordered all video recording stopped.
Justice Larkin called the recording âintimidationâ.